It’s from these falls and failures that I learn my biggest lessons. I learn that perfection is an absolute impossible word to strive for. I learn that maybe I need to relax my Type A personality. I learn that my family does not expect me to be anything other than the person I am today, right now, at this moment. I am not in competition with anyone, but I am in competition with myself. Hmmm, maybe that’s the problem. Being in competition with the one person I am always in competition with is the one person I can never get away from.
So how do I stop this behaviour? How do I conceive to be just me and be happy with it? Easy, I just start believing that the person I am right now at this moment is the person I always wanted to be. I let all the past negativity and all the past negative influences that have ever been part of my life, wash over me like yesterday’s storm. It may not be easy to let that uneasiness of yesterday’s negative thoughts go into the abyss, but how will you ever be happy with the person you are today without it.
As I was researching some of the ways to let go of the past, I came across this:
1. Learn a new skill instead of dwelling on the skills you never mastered… ok this seems easy enough, I like to workout and cook I look for new ways to challenge myself in this way.
2. Change your perception—see the root cause as a blessing in disguise… not an easy skill but take a step back and have someone you trust as your sounding board, helps before you act on animal negative instinct and pounce.
3. Cry it out. According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D., biochemist at the Ramset Medical Center in Minneapolis, crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress…. I am not ashamed to admit, this one may come a bit too easy for me - LOL!
4.Channel your discontent into an immediate positive action—make some calls about new job opportunities, or walk to the community center to volunteer…. At this point I called my friend Sabrina and signed up to do one of the most life changing things I had ever done – 10 weeks & 25 pounds and a happy mind later – positive people :)
5. Use meditation or yoga to bring you into the present moment (instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future)…. I meditate when I blog – believe it or not it’s one of my biggest
ways to channel my mind to think and reflect upon my week and the people I love.
6.Make a list of your accomplishments—even the small ones— and add to it daily. You’ll have to let go of a little discontentment to make space for this self-satisfaction… Weekly, as a mom of 3 kids, you can appreciate my time for this, but my Instagram and FB posts serve as my daily accomplishments, save the ones I verbally tell the people in my circle of love
7.Visualize a box in your head labeled “Expectations.” Whenever you start dwelling on how things should be or should have been, mentally shelve the thoughts in this box…I am starting to work on this and so should you, instead of shelving the box, I just think of all the good things going on in my life
8.Engage in a physical activity. Exercise decreases stress hormones and increases endorphins, chemicals that improve your state of mind…. Well this is a no brainer ;) As I was not at my optimal physical peak today, I did walk to the park today with my kids, a nice 20 minute hike pulling a wagon full of their toys and trinkets
9. Focus all your energy on something you can actually control instead of dwelling on things you can’t….I control the people I surround myself with and the daily things I choose to do, both physically and mentally.
10. Express your feelings through a creative outlet, like blogging or painting.Add this to your to-do list and cross it off when you’re done. This will be a visual reminder that you have actively chosen to release these feelings….Hmmmmmm– LOL!!!
The moral of this week’s story is don’t dwell and worry about things that have happened, they have happened, LET IT GO! It’s also difficult to control anything that is going to happen in the future, as well, no one knows what will be. The only thing you can control is what is happening right here, right
now. Once I started letting go of the things I couldn’t control, any indiscretions I may have had didn’t have any negative mental effects on me. Instead I would put into practice all of the above, in one capacity of another, and keep my head held in a blissful spirit.
Keeping My Chin Up High,
Live from the Inside Out,